More and more, I get these beautiful, terrible, sad emails from surviving family members and friends of people who completed suicide. Recently, I happened upon one that had been misdirected to my spam inbox. It was from Kevin Clark, a friend of a friend who’d lost his sister, Lisa, to suicide just a couple of days earlier. He detailed her struggles and his own. He expressed regret—the idea that even though he knew he wasn’t to blame, he felt he’d failed as a big brother for not trying harder to talk to her, for not, somehow, being able to convince her that life was worth living. More and more, I wonder what to do with these emails, outside of bearing virtual witness to the pain of the stories within.
One solution I’ve come up with is to add a section to the LTT website to memorialize those losses. I think being able to see the names of those who lost their lives to suicide will help to further ground the issue in reality—these are people we loved dearly, who are lost to us forever.
Lisa Clark is pictured above. She was 25 when she died. Live Through This continues on in memory of Lisa.
If you’ve lost someone to suicide and you’d like to honor them in this way, email me. Please also consider making a donation to the project in their name. There are people all over the country who would like to tell their stories, and I’d like to be able to make that happen. Any amount, large or small, will help to document these powerful tales of survival.
If you can’t spare a dime, share this link. Spread the word to help promote suicide awareness. You never know, you might just save a life.